“You Are a Fiancé/Boyfriend, Not a Father” – Apostle Johnson Suleman Warns Men Ahead of Valentine!

“You Are a Fiancé/Boyfriend, Not a Father” – Apostle Johnson Suleman Warns Men Ahead of Valentine!

Reported by Marian Opeyemi Fasesan (Editor-in-Chief) | Sele Media Africa Journalist

Apostle Johnson Suleman, the senior pastor of Omega Fire Ministries, has sparked vigorous online discussion with a fresh message to men ahead of Valentine’s Day — urging them to be realistic about their roles in romantic relationships and not take on responsibilities meant for their partner’s family.

In a sermon shared widely on social media on Wednesday, Suleman cautioned young men against feeling pressured to solve every challenge a romantic partner brings into a relationship, especially those originating from the partner’s family background. He stressed that love should be guided by wisdom and capacity, and not by societal expectations or Valentine’s Day hype.

“How do you want to do for her what her father could not do? Stop carrying people’s issues on your head,” the clergyman said, emphasizing that a fiancé or boyfriend should not be treated as a substitute guardian or father figure. “You cannot be a father to who you did not birth,” he added, urging men to understand their roles clearly as they prepare for marriage.

Suleman clarified that while it’s acceptable to support a partner financially if one is blessed and able — for example, paying school fees — it is unwise to shoulder all unresolved family or spiritual burdens. He highlighted that struggling men might be better served by prayer and guidance rather than taking on extra pressure.

The preacher’s message has stirred mixed reactions online, with some applauding his straightforward advice while others debated the practical implications of his views on relationships. His remarks come amid growing conversations about romantic expectations, economic pressures, and the cultural significance of Valentine’s Day in Nigeria.

Overall, Suleman’s counsel serves as a reminder to build relationships on balanced understanding, mutual support, and realistic expectations rather than emotional pressure or social celebration trending.

Citations:

1. Gistreel – https://www.gistreel.com/you-are-a-boyfriend-not-a-father-apostle-johnson-suleman-warns-men-ahead-of-valentines-day/?utm_source=chatgpt.com
2. Gistlover – https://www.gistlover.com/you-are-a-fiance-boyfriend-not-a-father-apostle-johnson-suleman-warns-men-ahead-of-valentine/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

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Marian Opeyemi Fasesan

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Marian Opeyemi Fasesan is a dynamic journalist and editorial leader committed to excellence in news reporting and storytelling. As the Editor-in-Chief of Sele Media Africa, she ensures daily operations run smoothly while upholding the highest editorial standards. With a strong eye for detail and deep understanding of audience engagement, Marian coordinates content across platforms, guiding teams to produce compelling, timely, and credible news. Her leadership reflects the heart of Sele Media Africa’s mission—to inform, inspire, and elevate voices across the continent.

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